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7 Ways To Celebrate Valentine’s Day when you’re single

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Editors Note: This post about Valentine’s Day was originally published in February 2020 and has been updated for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and may bring up a myriad of emotions for you. Perhaps you’re dreading the holiday because it reminds you that you’re single. Or maybe you’re happy being single and want to celebrate Valentine’s Day, but you’re not sure how.

My worst date on Valentine’s Day

In my mid 20’s I was in a relationship with a guy I’ll call George.

George and I had been dating for about 9 months and he knew how important the holiday was for me. I had mentioned how much I love Valentine’s Day on several occasions and I assumed he understood how special it was for me.

A cup of hot chocolate in a mug with two heart shaped cookies for Valentine's Day

I guess I underestimated George.

Guess what he did for me on Valentine’s Day?


He showed up late to pick me up for our date and acted as though everything was normal when I expressed feeling sad that he had not taken into consideration how important the holiday was for me.

Needless to say, my relationship with George was short-lived because he and I ultimately did not want the same things.

When I was single, I remember that Valentine’s Day was tough because I would feel jealous and sad when my friends had someone special to celebrate with and I was all alone.

It took me a long time to embrace Valentine’s Day as a single girl.

Now, I consider Valentine’s Day as a reminder to practice self-care, self-love, self-compassion, and an opportunity to express my love to my friends and family.

A cup of hot coco with a spoon and a heart shaped cookie

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to celebrate love.

“Love is not just an emotion, it’s an ability. Celebrate you and that you have the ability to love.”

Clarissa Silva

So why don’t you use this day to honor and cherish yourself?

Ultimately you’re the only one that’s going to be with you 24-7, so why not celebrate YOU on Valentine’s Day?

This is the one guide for all the single girl’s out there who have the best Valentine’s Day ever!

1. Cherish and love yourself on Valentine’s Day

Envision your perfect day. Start from the moment you wake up.

How are you feeling? What do you want to wear, who are the people you interact with, and what type of mood are you in?

Scrabble tiles formed in the word love

Step by step, envision what you want Valentine’s Day to look like for you. Think about how you want to cherish and love yourself for simply being you.

“When you become the image of your own imagination, it’s the most powerful thing you could ever do.”


Remember that on Valentine’s Day, you want to truly love and cherish yourself.

What does the perfect evening look like for you?

Does it include ordering pizza, watching a movie, and eating ice cream? Or do you like to snuggle with a warm blanket, your favorite book, and a glass of wine?

A pair of feet in cozy slippers next to a cup of tea and a blanket

Now schedule this perfect day in your calendar and make it happen.

You’re important and practicing self-care is a great step towards feeling happier and more balanced in your life.

2. Practice loving-kindness meditation

Oftentimes we are lost in thought, worrying about this or thinking about that.

It’s rare that we are actually in the present moment.

What do you think would happen today if you focused on being fully mindful and having present moment awareness?

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.”

Eckhart Tolle

Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. In all its shapes and forms.

If you practice being mindful, you will realize how fortunate you are to be surrounded by love.

Try taking a mindful walk and notice what is around you.

A person walking outside in nature

When you’re drinking your favorite meal or beverage, slow down and notice the smell, texture, flavor and temperature.

Focus on being present, and be grateful that you can eat and drink. Notice and be grateful for the food and drinks that you are consuming.

You can also try practicing a loving-kindness meditation which will help you feel centered and grounded.

Sometimes Valentine’s Day can bring up feelings of jealousy or envy because you’re single and not in a relationship.

I remember those feelings quite well, especially in my early 20’s when I was single or in a dead-end relationship and feeling sad that I was unable to celebrate the holiday with someone that truly loved me.

When you try the loving-kindness meditation, focus on the feelings and sensations that come up for you.

3. Have a virtual Valentine’s Day party

Invite your single friends and spend the evening doing something fun and festive that all of you enjoy.

This might be a bit challenging during COVID-19 since we’re restricted and can’t gather in large groups, but you can have a virtual gathering with your friends.

Perhaps you choose a theme of “Foods you Love” and during your virtual dinner party you each share why you are eating the food and any positive memories you associate.

You can also have a virtual craft party and make cards for people you love.

A woman at her kitchen island with a tray of food looking at her laptop computer celebrating Valentine's Day virtually with friends

The purpose of this gathering is to surround yourself with people you love and to celebrate the camaraderie that you share.

4. Write love letters

What I love to do on Valentine’s Day is to send cards to my friends, family and colleagues. These are the people in my life that have supported, encouraged, guided and loved me unconditionally.

Why not honor people in your life that you love?

Do you remember the last time you got an actual card in the mail? Remember how happy you felt? Well, this is a chance for you to share that feeling with others.

Several Valentine's Day cards on a table

It’s pretty easy to do this.

Go to the dollar store and pick up a half dozen cards. These cards are inexpensive, cute and festive. Don’t forget to buy some stamps while you’re out shopping.

To write cards, I like to get my favorite pen and markers, light a candle, make my favorite cup of tea, and sit comfortably on the couch.

A heart shaped card in an envelope for Valentine's Day

Think of the person you have in mind and express in writing how much you love and appreciate them.

Ask yourself, why they are important to you. Can you remember a specific event that helped you realize the significance of this relationship?

Take a few minutes and jot these thoughts down on a card. Let them know that Valentine’s Day is a reminder of celebrating love and that they have a warm soft spot in your heart.

5. Write in your journal

You can also take a few minutes to write down how you’re feeling in your journal. Journaling is a wonderful self-care practice and a great way to express your thoughts, feelings, and ideas.

You can write whatever comes up for you.

In her article on 5 Ways to Celebrate Valentine’s Day, Clarissa Silva suggests writing yourself a love note and documenting all the things you love about yourself because it helps increase your self-esteem and self-worth.

A woman writing in her journal at a table with a cup of tea beside her

I recommend being transparent about your feelings when you’re journaling.

Perhaps you’re feeling frustrated because you’re thinking about your failed relationships and wondering why you’re still single. Or maybe you’re feeling lonely and sad.

Whatever the case may be, allow your feelings to surface and write them down in your journal.

I remember one of the worst Valentine’s Day I had. It was February of 2005, and I had moved back home because I was severely depressed.

I felt like the loneliest and most unlovable person in the world. I was in my dark cave, and did not think anyone could reach me.

A heart shaped ballon on a stick

When I read my journals from this time, I notice that I had called my friend Billy (who I had known since high school). Even though he was tired from a crazy work schedule, he noticed the tone of my voice, and immediately came over to my house.

Billy gave me a hug, a Valentine’s card (he knew I liked the holiday), sat with me, and said, “You’re not alone Pantea. I’m right here with you.”

A man and woman embracing

To this day, I am grateful to him for loving me on a day that I felt that no one could reach me.

So think about people around you who may also be alone today and reach out to them. You may be surprised by how much this may help you and your loved one feel better.

6. Laugh…it’s the best medicine

According to Psychology Today, laughter reduces pain, increases job performance, connects people emotionally, and improves the flow of oxygen to the heart and brain.

Sounds wonderful doesn’t?

To cultivate laughter, watch this PSA from Cherry Bomb Comedy to hear all about the benefits of celebrating S.A.D. instead of wishing you were celebrating Valentine’s Day with your significant other.

And if you’re in a relationship, get ready to hear a bunch of reasons why you might not have it that great after all.

7. Practice self-compassion on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a perfect opportunity to practice self-compassion.

Self-compassion is a loving practice of being patient, using kind and gentle language, and being actively soothing to yourself.

When you’re practicing self-compassion, you will feel less stressed and more resilient.

Researchers from Stanford University did a study and demonstrated that those who practice self-compassion experienced less distress, anxiety, depression, and shame. Practicing self-compassion also increases feelings of well-being, like optimism, connectedness, and self-confidence.

A person holding their fingers together in the shape of a heart

To start practicing self-compassion, you can talk to yourself as you would talk to your best friend.

Imagine your best friend was struggling or feeling emotional today, what would you tell them? How would you want them to feel after they expressed their thoughts to you?

Now extend that same practice towards yourself.

Talk to yourself in a patient, loving and kind way. Remember that by practicing self-compassion, you will experience a positive difference in your mood and outlook.


Whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day can bring up a mix of emotions. To help you shift towards the positive, consider Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to practice self-care, self-compassion and focus on expressing love to those who are most important to you.

There are many activities you can do to enjoy Valentine’s Day, including hosting a party, writing love letters, journaling and laughing… funny movies anyone?

You can also practice loving-kindness meditations and being more mindful of everything around you. You will be surprised by how much love and beauty is around you when you simply slow down, breath and look around you.

Valentine's Day decorations

Most importantly, remember that today is an opportunity to love, and cherish yourself. Focus on practicing self-compassion and talk to yourself as you would talk to your best-friend. Notice the positive changes in your mood and thoughts once you make these shifts.

What have been some of the fun ways that you have celebrated Valentine’s Day? What did you enjoy doing and what recommendations to you have for others? Please share your stories and comments below.

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2 Responses

  1. You make so many good points. This holiday shouldn’t revolve around another person making us happy. We need to take care of ourselves and treat ourselves the best! This is a great day to do that.

    1. Hi Kristin I’m so happy that you found my article helpful. Yes, you’re absolutely right, this holiday shouldn’t revolve around another person making us happy but rather focusing on our own well-being and happiness. Thanks for taking the time to share your feedback and I hope you have a fantastic Valentine’s Day cherishing your awesome self!

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